Dating divorced men red flags to watch for
There was one little problem, however, and that was that James already had a wife.
Now, before we all get our panties in a bunch, before I get labeled the heinous man-stealer, let me toss out a few more details: James’ wife was on the cusp of no longer being his wife. But to quote Olivia Newton John in her star turn in “Grease,” What I mean to say is that over the course of those 10 hours I couldn’t knock the feeling – despite all those red flags – that James and I might still be a good match. Which brings me to now, two years into our relationship. In this day and age, the briefest jaunt through Facebook reveals significant portions of who this woman is: What she looks like, what parts of herself she likes to advertise.
I’ve put together a list of 3 red flags that should never be ignored.1.
They Avoid Conflict: Some people absolutely refuse to deal with an issue or problem in a relationship.
Now that you are single again you need to learn to pay attention to red flags and not make excuses for them.
It will keep you from sailing, head first into disaster and another failed marriage.
All this information came up over the course of our 10-hour date, and to some extent, the process of James discussing it was akin to someone waving a red flag in my face. The point of course is this: There are some serious pros to dating a divorced guy. The Cons: (I thought we’d get the negatives out of the way first. ” You’ll have to manage her continued pining, her continued pursuit. You will see him see old photos, you will see him cry or scream or fume or mourn. And – lest it bears mention – this is all as much fun as… A guy who’s lived with a woman for a significant period of time has a pretty good sense of what to say and when to say it. If you’re boyfriend’s divorced, you can be 99 percent sure he’s lived with someone else for a while and has a solid understanding of shared space as a result. A divorce is a horrible thing to be sure, but from what I’ve observed, it’s also pretty humbling.
Whether it’s the holiday season or Valentine’s Day or the magic of 4th of July fireworks, we know it’s the shared moments that are most special.No matter how good-looking and alluring your new “friend” may be those red flags tell the true story about who you are dating and dealing with. We all want to hang in there hoping things will change.That, by the way, is how most people end up in abusive relationships and divorce court.You might help him, but you’ll be his transitional women.When he feels better, he’ll move on to find love with someone else. Avoid being a divorced man’s therapist if you are serious about finding lasting love. Red Flag #3: He Doesn’t See You on the Weekend You meet a guy who seems nice and maybe your first and second dates were on the weekend. There is always something he has to do or plans he made way in advance that keep you from getting together.